For those who don’t know me, I am single. To protect the lives of the innocent, I’ll just say that a month and a half ago, God decided that He wanted my boyfriend and I all to Himself and decided to make that known to us after 1 year of dating. Although we prayed for God’s guidance the entire time, I am thankful that He made it very clear to us that He was directing us to end our relationship. It’s amazing to know that He cares about His children so much. I know it may sound crazy to some, but being obedient to God doesn’t require understanding.
Although I was very much in love and happy in my relationship, I am not a sad single girl because I know that I am purposefully single. God didn’t end our relationship to be mean; He just saw that I (or we) needed more time to cultivate faithfulness and grow in Him. Because of this, I can appreciate so much that God didn’t let me continue to be in a relationship with someone else if He was not in full support of it.
Louie Giglio of Passion City Church in Atlanta is a phenomenal pastor. The entire church is a great place that has dedicated their ministry to impacting the lives of 18-25 year olds and they have definitely impacted me. While I was dealing with the disappointment of no longer being in a relationship, Louie was in the middle of a sermon series called Boy Meets Girl. The two messages that I particularly enjoyed were called Waiting Here for You Parts 1 & 2. At the time, I wasn’t interested in hearing about love, marriage or any of the cliché’ things we hear in church about love, but my best friend Jeida assured me that the message was more about God than love. She was right.
Psalms 37:3, 4 says “Trust in the LORD and do good;
Dwell in the land and cultivate faithfulness. Delight yourself in the LORD;
And He will give you the desires of your heart.”
While we wait on God, we should be active in our waiting and also pitching our tents in the land of truth. We should do good things that build us into the people that we should be, and also do great things for God’s kingdom. Also, we must dwell in the land of truth and cultivate faithfulness.
Cultivating faithfulness means to dig up the things in our lives that prevent us from being the person that we want to be in Christ. This may mean disciplining ourselves, removing people or habits, gaining new skills, all with God’s help. It almost always means that we are strengthening our relationship with God so that we are able to be guided and used by Him. When it comes to relationships, it’s about becoming a person with the character, life, dedication to God and spiritual strength that we want to see when we walk down the aisle.
Philippians 4:8 says, “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” These are the things we should be planting in our lives. As we remove things that are not Godly and these beautiful things, God will water them and they will grow in our lives. And I have no doubt that these are all the things that we all want to see in our future spouse as we meet them at the alter.
Louie also talked about what it means to “wait with God while waiting on God.” God is with us even while we are waiting for Him to reveal what He already has planned for us. We aren’t waiting alone.
Quotes from the messages:
We have to prepare the soil of our life, of our heart and of our relationship for the harvest we’ve been dreaming about.
There’s no such thing as instantaneous maturity.
A part of cultivating faithfulness is being able to step back and say, ‘God, what do you see?’
If you don’t feel like the person you want to marry, then the person you end up choosing to marry can’t compensate for you. We have to trust God in the waiting time to cultivate the soil.
While we’re waiting on the not yet, there’s always something for us to cultivate in terms of building faithfulness in our lives.
God is saying, ‘If I can’t trust you with this, in the land wherever you are and cultivate faithfulness where you are, then I can’t possibly give you anything else.’
How I Cultivate Faithfulness
Deciding to fully prepare myself to be the person that God wants me to be has meant that I’ve had to change my mindset. It means I’m not content or settled where I am, and that I’m always striving to go higher, be better and be more faithful in something. It means that I’m forever improving. These are just a few of the areas that I have decided to cultivate faithfulness in.
Personal Relationship with Christ
Although it sounds quite simple, I have started dedicating my time to fortifying myself with prayer and the Word. It also includes reading books, journaling and listening to messages.
It has meant that I spend more time with God than I spend with other things and people. My relationship with Christ has truly become the most important thing in my life and it’s something I treasure.
I have increased my involvement in a prayer ministry that I serve as the secretary for. I put in more time not only organizing, but interceding for the prayer ministry and the people that we actually pray for.
I have made myself available to many friends to reach out to whenever needed. My friends all know that if they need to call me to pray with them, pray for them, etc, it is never a problem and that I’m always there.
I have dedicated myself to running a youth small group at my church on Friday nights. It is something that the Lord laid on my heart before school ended and I thank God that it will be starting this Friday. I have a huge heart for youth ministry and meeting the needs of young people however possible. I know that God is going to use me to bring the youth closer to Him.
I have worked to be more respectful and helpful with my family. This has been quite tough, but I know that God has used my family to refine my character. This means serving them, keeping my mouth shut and not always needing to have things my way.
I have started preparing myself for my last year of school and all the changes that will come with it. This has meant finding affordable housing, picking classes and looking into programs that will help me find a teaching job. I’m in the process of applying to a program now, and if it’s in God’s will, I’ll be accepted and I’ll have a job before I even graduate. PRAISES!
This has also meant assessing my financial situation as the college student that I am and deciding how I should be spending my money. This has been one of the toughest parts of cultivating faithfulness, but I know that I will thank myself later for being so frugal with my spending and vigilant with my saving.
I have started drinking a lot of more water and eating a lot less junk. This also means that I spend more time walking and less time sitting. It’s not always fun because it’s pretty hot in Central Georgia, but it’s worth it. My body is a temple and it needs to be treated that way.
I’ve started to cultivate faithfulness in my appearance, by simply being sure that I’m always presentable and respectable in the way that I carry myself.
About a month ago, I created a list of things I wanted to complete before summer. This included sewing a dress, reading several books and voluteering. I’ve decided to cultivate faithfulness by setting goals and completing them and by becoming a more well-rounded Brittany. These are things we often times don’t think of as something that prepares us for the next level in life, but I’m pretty sure that I would appreciate it if my future husband was well-read, well-rounded and had lots of useful skills. Just saying. 🙂
Psalms 37: 4 talks about delighting ourselves in the Lord. Louie talked about what this really means. It means to seek God above all else. Forget about what you want and realize that God is the best. As you go after and pursue the best, all your desires will be fulfilled. Because when we delighted in Him, our desires became His desires. Also, many people don’t know that they word “delight” in Hebrew means to “make pliable.” As we make ourselves pliable and moldable, our desires really become His desires. I may start out desiring a man who looks and talks this way, but as I make myself pliable to God, His desires for me become my desires for me and I simply want His best for me. How beautiful is that?
Cultivating faithfulness is not at all about attracting a man or woman. It’s more so about being faithful in your own life right where you are so that God can see that because He can trust us with the small things, He can also trust us with any large blessings He wants to bestow upon us.
I hope that this blog post is one that makes you think a lot about the concept of cultivating faithfulness, and if you would like to hear Louie’s messages from the Boy Meets Girl series, you can find the messages on iTunes under Passion City Church or on the church website that I added a link to. Until next time, be blessed!