Getting Out of My Head

The hardest part about wanting to write is forcing myself to get the ideas out of my head and onto paper. Some of you may not have this issue, but I’m sure someone reading this can relate.

I am by nature a true overthinker. I take an ideas and boil it down into small particles, sometimes examining every possible outcome and aspect. At times, I even talk (or think) myself out of ideas because I assume everyone already knows it or they aren’t that valuable. My overthinking can be likened to the scene in Avengers: Infinity War when Dr. Strange looked into the future and found millions of possible outcomes for the situation the group was facing. The only difference is, I don’t have any super powers so my over analyzing never shows me anything new.

In this season of life, I am learning that it is okay to do my thinking on paper. I don’t have to keep the ideas bottled up until they are perfected before sharing them. I don’t have to have everything sorted out before I start to create. Ideas don’t have to be a final destination; they can indeed be a starting point. Growth can come from dialogue, but there can be no dialogue if I am not sharing ideas.

My goal for the next few months is to share more, even if I still want to ponder. There has to be a starting point and this short post (that was imagined weeks ago) is this overthinker’s step one.

Thanks for reading,

Brittany

Marriage Musings from a New Wife + Wedding Photos

My husband and I recently celebrated 6 months of marriage. It has been 180 days since we said “I do” and we are very grateful for this small milestone. What I find funny about being married is that it doesn’t feel that new. In fact, I hardly remember what life was like before waking up next to him. It’s like he’s always been here. However, there have definitely been areas where we have both needed to adjust.

Living with another person is not always the easiest, but if you are committed to loving your spouse, you find ways to make your lives work. We are believers and have faith that God has placed us in each others lives for many reasons, with the primary reason being to help each other grow in our faith. When we keep this in mind, it keeps us focused on why we are together besides just love. There have been some adjustments that we’ve had to make, however, to ensure that both parties are happy.

The first adjustment was to make sure we are speaking to each other as kindly as possible. My husband is a natural at this. He naturally really kind and polite (unless he’s your basketball trainer). On the other hand, you have me. My only major punishments as a child were for talking back and for being rude when speaking. My parents were very traditional in their view of what children should be able to say and had no problem letting me know when I was out of line. I have made major strides in learning how to speak without being passive aggressive or condescending, but at times, it quite literally slips out. These are the moments when I have to say “I said that wrong. What I should have said was…” and apologize to my husband. When I was single, I was never as comfortable with another human as I am with my husband, but even as a wife, I have to make sure that my comfort does not allow me to become abrasive. We continually work to speak to each other with love and words that will make the other feel cherished.

Another area that we’ve had to adjust is our time. Before I married my husband, I pretty much lived at my job. Although I have exclusively been a salaried employee for the last 4 years, I am the type of person who would spend hours in my classroom perfecting bulletin boards or creating new projects. I was known for calling parents at 7pm and replying to e-mails well after 8pm. This is just the type of person I am and time flies when I’m having fun. Being married means that I can still work, but my husband definitely wants to spend time with me each day. Our schedules are quite opposite during the school year, and sometimes this means making adjustments so that we can spend time together. We have learned to do this and it has helped us so much.

One last adjustment is actively looking for opportunities to serve one another. My husband is a remarkable person in so many ways, but I’m especially thankful for the ways that he serves me. While reminiscing with a friend recently, I shared with her about how when I became ill with food poisoning once while we were dating, my husband served me in a way that really showed me his heart for me. He continues to do this even now. When I wake up for work each morning, he will go start my car, fill it up with gas or even make an early store run if I need something. He helps me by making sure I have my lunch, my keys and anything else I need on the daily basis. I can count on one hand how many times I have pumped gas or carried anything remotely heavy. These are just a few of the ways he serves me. I also look for ways to serve him. Whether it be making sure he has healthy meals, helping him manage social media for his business, shampooing his hair or just bringing him something special home for dinner. We have started asking each other “how can I make your day better” and it has truly helped us.

Being married has been a beautiful experience thus far and I cannot wait to see what God has in store for us in the future. Below are some of the wedding photos that I think capture the feeling of our day the best. As always, I have question for you.

If you are married, which lessons did you learn early on in your marriage? And how do you keep your marriage healthy? If you are not and desire marriage, what do you think will be an area you must work on when you become married? Please share your thoughts below in the Comments section. 

In pursuit of all things green,

Brittany

 

Helpful Practices for New Year Success

Can you believe that we are 18 days into January already? It feels like just yesterday that I was sending “Happy New Year” texts to friends and family. The beginning of a new year is always a great time for me. I know that positive changes can begin at any moment, but I love getting a new start on January 1st. This year, I have decided to implement some new practices to help me in areas that I felt I was lacking in. I’m going to share the new practices that are working well for me so far in hopes that some of them may work well for you.

Committing to use a bullet journal

One of the best decisions I’ve made this year so far was to start a bullet journal. I originally heard of bullet journaling over a year ago, but at the time it seemed incredibly time consuming. During my two weeks off from work, I decided to go ahead and see what it was all about. Setting up my bullet journal required much thought but there were many YouTube videos & blog posts that made the process much easier. Bullet journaling has provided me the space to write down goals, trackers, budgets and so many other types of data that I’d like to keep up with. It provides a special type of accountability that I can’t get by simply saying “I’m going to do this” to myself. In the last couple years, I have seen that I will do more and do better if it is written down. And, I have already accomplished some of the things in my journal. Here’s to knocking out this year’s goals by writing the vision!

Finding new streams of income

Ever since learning that the average millionaire has 7 streams of income, I have become dedicated to researching additional streams of income for myself. Although so many in my family are great at creating side hustles that work for them, I’ve never really found that thing that worked for me. Yes, I’ve sold a few items on TeachersPayTeachers or a textbook to another student in college, but I do not like directly selling things to people. However, I realize that everyone is selling something. People on YouTube are selling us makeup in their tutorials, some of my favorite Instagram influencers are constantly trying to get me to purchase sponsored healthy foods and even my Facebook friends are selling school fundraiser items on behalf of their kids. The economy only flows if money is being circulated through buying and selling. So far this year, I’ve made extra money through selling items I no longer use and mystery shopping. It’s really amazing how someone will find value in the things I don’t need anymore. I’ve sold shoes that I haven’t worn in years, clothes that are too small and even wedding gifts that were collecting dust in our closet. It has felt great to declutter our space and make money doing it. I have also completed one mystery shopping assignment that took me about 45 minutes and earned me $23. I was able to complete it by going somewhere that I needed to go to anyway and it wasn’t labor intensive. I have only done one mystery shopping visit so I don’t have too much to share yet, but if you are interested, Tai & Talaat McNeely have a great blog post with videos on reputable sites to mystery shop for here. I would highly suggest it for those who have pockets of extra time in their week.

Taking supplements daily

I know that taking supplements doesn’t sound that exciting and if it wasn’t flu season, you’d probably really roll your eyes at this one. But I have found that taking vitamins are an easy way that I can ensure that I am getting what I need. I work in a profession where I come in contact with a lot of germs. And whether you work with children or not, the reality is, we’re all coming in contact with germs and harmful bacteria. This year’s flu season is already projected to be one of the worst on record, with hospitals setting up triage tents and school districts closing school to prevent the spread. I am hoping to do everything I can to keep myself healthy. My primary supplements are Vitamin C with Rose Hip to boost my immune system, Vitamin D to supplement for missed sunlight, Vitamin B12 to give me energy and wheatgrass because it helps everything. I also take a probiotic for gut health and St. John’s Wort for mood. I take some of them every day and some a few times a week based on my diet and the season. These supplements help me to feel my best and ensure that I’m not lacking in any vital area. I hope that they will help me continue feeling my best and have another sick visit-free year!

Which new practices have you incorporated this year? Did you commit to anything new? If so, how are these things helping you so far? Have you tried any of the practices I mentioned above? Please let me know in the Comments below. And as always, thanks for reading!

In pursuit of a greener year,

Brittany

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