my response to “We All Have Sexual Baggage”

Yesterday, Relevant Magazine contributor Natalie Floyd shared an article called “We All Have Sexual Baggage.” The article addresses an idea that many young Christians have grown up being taught: that having pre-marital sex leaves you as a permanently damaged commodity less worthy and capable of a happy marriage. Although I do agree that pre-marital sex is detrimental to our relationship with Christ and our livelihood, I don’t believe that that abstaining or engaging will either leave us as either perfectly pure and whole OR destroyed and desolate. Sex is bad for us if done at the wrong time, but so are so many other things. Many sins that we commit are as simple as doing the right thing at the wrong time.

In the article, Floyd said many great things, but one in particular that I believe is so important. She states, “The truth is, we’ve all got something in our hearts that probably needs to be addressed. We all have an issue, a hang up or an expectation that could stifle our personal growth or prevent us from entering into a relationship like marriage as a healthy and whole person.” I love this quote because she is correct. She goes on to share that there are many physical virgins who haven’t had intercourse but who have other sexual issues that can be real problems in marriage. Some people may not have as many sexual issues but possess many other issues that can prevent us from enjoying and growing in marriage the way that God desires. I believe that there must be more attention on these issues so that future heartache is avoided. After all, I’m sure that Christian marriages fall apart over more than sexual baggage. There are personality conflicts, money issues, a lack of respect or love shown, infidelity and so many more issues that should be addressed on the heart level. 

More than anything, I am thankful that Floyd’s article shared the fact that there is grace for times when we fall. There are so many people who live in the prison of their own guilt. They hold on to their sins, refusing to hand them over to a sovereign who paid the price for them over 2000 years ago. Romans 8:1 says, “There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.”  The world and long-time Christians alike need to understand that there is love, grace, forgiveness and hope for those who feel burdened down by their own life’s baggage. Jesus is the one who lightens our load, removes our burdens and sets us on the path to “go and sin no more.” So if you find yourself in that place, please remember that you are never too broken or too damaged simply because God restores. He is well qualified in redemption, restoration and doing a new thing. 🙂 

If you get a moment, please check out Floyd’s article and share your thoughts on it in the Comments section below.

life after God takes away

I will open rivers in high places, and fountains in the midst of the valleys: I will make the wilderness a pool of water, and the dry land springs of water. – Isaiah 41:18 KJV

Two years and one week ago, I wrote a blog post called, “When God Takes Away.” When I wrote this, I was coming out of a dark season in my life following a difficult breakup. When referring to the breakup in previous blog posts, I shared that I was deeply hurt, but I never conveyed how hurt. Continue reading “life after God takes away”

faithful is He: Jeida’s story

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! -Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4‬:‭9-10‬ ESV

Friendship is one of God’s greatest gifts. In a dog-eat-dog world, it is a blessing to have people who genuinely love you. I believe, however, that friendship has many levels. My friendship with Jeida is on a special level though: Jeida is my Person.

Continue reading “faithful is He: Jeida’s story”

Bring Back Our Girls Prayer Call

“The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,
Because He has anointed Me
To preach the gospel to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives
And recovery of sight to the blind,
To set at liberty those who are oppressed;

To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord. – Luke 4:18-19 KJV

Good morning, friends.

Few things disturb me like kidnapping. Someone who doesn’t know you comes into an area where you feel safe and steals your dreams,  sense of security, and whatever else they want from you. How frightening to think that we live in a world where this can happen. And not only can it happen, but it can happen to hundreds of people at a time. This was the case in Borno State, Nigeria. Over 200 girls taking exams at school, probably very nervous about them yet excited about being finished. Then, a group of armed men comes in to abduct them, forcing them to leave. Some of the girls escaped, but most didn’t. Many have likely been married to men older than them that they do not know. The group that has stolen them has said that they will sell them. It’s deplorable, disgusting and scary. This is something that these girls will never forget. In situations like this, I am reminded that Jesus is a champion of freedom. The evil one comes to kill, steal and destroy, but our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is one who restores, redeems, rescues and sets captives free. Although this situation is bleak, it is not without hope. At 9PM EST, I will be holding a prayer call to pray for the safe return of the girls. There will be several prayer foci tonight and people from many places joining us on the line.

Tonight’s Prayer Foci 

Safe return of the girls
Safety of those trying to rescue them
Peace for the families
Protection for the girls as they are captives
That people would come to know Christ through this situation
Restoration of peace in Borno state and other areas of northeastern Nigeria
For the end of sex and human trafficking

If you would like to stand with us in agreement for the safe return of the girls, please call in. I have seen the power of prayer in my own life, and more than anything, I want to see God turn the ashes of this situation into beauty. To enter the prayer line, simply dial 530-881-1300 and enter access code 121413#. If you are outside of the US, check out Free Conferencing’s website for details about how you can join in.

Brittany