becoming one: our love story

He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” – Matthew 19:4-6 ESV

 

As I think about the Bible, unity is one of my favorite reoccurring themes. Before departing this Earth, Jesus himself prayed that his people would be one. He was one not only with His father, God, but the Holy Spirit as well. The desire to be one is not something that Jesus alone possesses, but it is a desire that we have been given, too. 

For the last two years, I have had the pleasure of being in relationship with one that my soul loves. His name is Anthony. Although an odd circumstance, I made his acquaintance several years ago while engaging in a disagreement online. The disagreement was very short lived and soon after, he apologized and introduced himself. Toward the end of 2012, we developed a budding friendship. Since we already had many mutual friends, becoming friends was easy. We were both easy going college students who loved God, music, trying new things, Southern life and helping people. Our conversations centered around writing, musical instruments, life experiences, sports and our passions. Talking to each other was always easy and I always felt safe when in his “company.” Something that I immediately noticed was how he kept in contact with me. If I became busy or wrapped up in my work, he would still reach out to me at least once every two weeks just to make sure I was okay. I didn’t take it that these were indicators that he was at all interested in me, but more so displays of genuine Christian friendship. It was nice to get to know someone with no pressure to be in a relationship. He became a confidant and trusted friend.

After I graduated in May 2013 and moved back home for the summer, our conversations continued and we began to learn more about each other. It was then that our mutual friends started to notice our interactions with each other and make mention of them. I was confident that we were purely friends so I ignored their comments. I was certain that there was nothing but friendship between us, so things continued. During the summer, we were actually able to meet in person and interact at a function in North Carolina. Shortly after that summer, I moved to Pennsylvania for work and to be a bit closer to family. Our friendship continued to grow throughout the end of 2013 and beginning of 2014. 

summer 2013

But in the spring of 2014, there was a shift in our friendship. It started when I took a job as a long-term substitute teacher in West Philadelphia that gave me an hour-long commute very early in the morning. Not only was the commute long, but the job was tough. It was demanding in many ways and it took a lot out of me. It was then that Anthony offered to help in any way he could, and we started talking each morning during my early morning commute. I was impressed that he would want to wake up and talk to me at 6:30 am, but again, I thought he was being a good friend. It was in the midst of that job that the Lord started to open my eyes to the possibility that this incredible  man could have feelings for me and vice versa. I prayed, I shared with trusted friends and I continued to observe him. My feelings were confirmed when I realized that he was the only man I wanted to get to know. On May 5th, 2014, we became a couple and have never looked back. He later told me that he had feelings for me well before we began dating. 🙂 Our two long distance years together have been nothing short of amazing. We have learned about patience, grace, forgiveness, generosity, kindness and faith through our relationship. God has used everything we have experienced together to help us become closer to Him and to become better people.

summer 2015, vacation with Anthony’s family


Just a few weeks ago, there was another shift in our relationship. On April 23rd of this year, Anthony gathered some of our closest friends from all over in the most beautiful park in my city and surprised me with a thoughtful proposal where he shared the reasons that he loves me. He got down on one knee, presented me with a lovely ring and asked me to become his wife. With tears, I said “yes.” It is a day that I’ll never forget. I have never felt more special and loved. To know that he worked so hard to put the day together for me was absolutely incredible.

our engagement day, spring 2016


There are so many reasons that I love Anthony. He has a deep love for God and others, integrity, passion, kindness, wisdom, work ethic and he is truly my best friend. He is everything that I asked God for in a husband. I don’t have to ask for his support because he volunteers it. I don’t have to ask for his prayers because he prays for me daily. I don’t have to ask him to honor me because he does it without thinking. I don’t have to wonder if he loves God because his life reflects that he does. Also, he loves my ugly parts and he has shown me that he is here for not only my good days, but my bad ones as well. There are so many things that make him who he is that other people won’t understand, but I thank God that He has given me the ability to understand him and he the ability to understand me. Although I know that we will grow and change as we become older, my prayer for our marriage is that we truly become one, not just with each other, but that we would become one with Christ. Just a few weeks into our engagement, we have already seen how important it will be to cleave to each other as we cleave to Christ. Many things will try to attack, but the God who brought us into each other’s lives will be the same God who holds us together. Our prayer for our marriage is that God would allow others to see the love He has for His church, the beauty in doing things His way through our relationship and that love TRULY wins. 

our engagement day, spring 2016


If you have followed my blog for a while, you see that I am experiencing incredible love and joy, but you also know that I have experienced incredible pain. If you don’t think I’m telling the truth, scroll through the archives and check out some of my posts around 2012-2013 like this one or this one. My life is not perfect and I have certainly not been perfect. But God has redeemed my painful situations and so many of my life’s deserts have become rivers of joy. He has changed situations while changing me and helping me become a better woman. My prayer for everyone who hopes to experiences life oneness with someone, is to not allow your past to make you worse. Don’t become jaded and hopeless; find joy in Jesus. Now that I am engaged, I can truly say that it is amazing, but so was being in a relationship and so was singleness. Every season is what you make it. Paul truly hits this on the head when he says, “…for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” In every situation and season, you can be joyful if you allow Jesus to be the center of your world. I encourage you to seek joy, contend for faith and fight for contentment. They are yours for the taking. 🙂

Thanks for reading, 

Brittany 

New blog feature: Resource Library

Good afternoon friends,

I hope that you are all well. I wanted to write a short blurb about something that I’ve worked really hard on to be of service to you. When I’m looking up different topics and issues related to living as a Christian young adult, I come across many great resources. I find free e-books, sermons, videos, booklets, articles, blog posts, music and more. Some of the resources that I’ve come across online have been exactly what I needed to read at a particular time in life, and I feel that it’s only fitting to make these resources available to those who may come to my blog looking for insight on a particular topic.

So today, I formally welcome you to check out Where He Makes All Things Beautiful’s new resource library. Feel free to browse, explore and share. A friend of mine already started a book group from a great free resource she found there and it’s helping many of the women in a tremendous way. Also, if there is ever a particular topic you may be looking for Godly counsel or advice on, feel free to comment somewhere on the blog or use the Say Hello feature to ask me. More than likely, I know of something that can help.

God bless you and have an awesome day!

Brittany

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“Don’t marry a …

“Don’t marry a marginally-Christian man. Some women want to be married enough that they’re willing to settle for this man who is just squeaking by. ‘He says he’s a Christian, I don’t think he can provide any spiritual leadership at all, I don’t even know if he’s solid but he just says the right words.’ I just want to encourage women, pray that God would lead to a man you can trust; a deeply Christian man.

A great quote from Pastor John Piper on the kind of men women should marry. Full message here.

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Godly Men

Hello friends,

Today, I am feeling completely compelled to write about why I love men who love Jesus. In my own life, I’ve been blessed to meet more men who wholeheartedly love Christ and I am so thankful for their presence. Please forgive me for the lack of cohesiveness found in this post. This post comes straight from my heart.

There’s something special about a man who surrenders His life to Christ. Something beautiful, captivating and lovely. I know that there are all words that one would not generally use to describe men, but they are powerful words that describe something that few words can, so  to me they are fitting.

Men who love Christ are peculiar. They are the opposite of everything the world portrays as manly. These men are those that will protect you, care for you, look out for the best interests of those around them and use self-control. They value you for heart and your brain, and not just your shape. They are loving, prayerful and fair. Their love for Christ spills out into their love for others and it’s a wonderful thing to be surrounded by men like this.

I love men who love Jesus because when I’m with them, I know that I’m safe. I know that if I need them, they’re coming to help me. I also know that if I need prayer, they’ll do that for me. Even deeper than that, they want to please Christ and encourage you to do the same. They are the ones who will encourage you to read your Bible, pray, study the Word and stay faithful to God.

When I think of Christian men, I think of Joseph, who was sold by his brothers into slavery, thrown into dark dungeons, offered sex by a woman who was married and ran, then later served in Egypt and helped save thousands of lives from hunger.

I think of Abraham, who walked when God told him to go to a place that He would show him and who served as the father of a great nation.

I think of David, who served God in his youth, lead the Lord’s people and although he sinned, he repented and moved forward. He also supremely loved God more than anything in life.

I think of men who marry, stay faithful & sacrificially love their wives, disciple their kids and provide for their families. Men who serve their churches and communities faithfully, as serving the Lord.

I think of the pastors who visit the members in times of need, keep their churches running, love their families and have a burning desire to see souls saved.

I think of young adult men, who choose to stand up for right even when their friends around them choose the way of the world.

I think of men who mentor and care for young children without fathers.

I think of men who love God more than anything else.

Men of God, I know that we (women) are hard on you sometimes, but it’s only because we know how dynamic you can be for God. We know that you can literally set the world on fire for Him. We want you to lead us. We want you to be men of character and integrity. We want to look at you and see Jesus’ reflection.

But more than anything, I encourage you. I encourage you to keep trusting God, keep following Him and to dig deeper. Seek Him more than you seek a wife. Seek Him more than you seek a career. Draw nigh to Him and He’ll draw nigh to you. Even if that means you have to be different, it’s okay. Great men usually had to separate from the crowd. Anyways, thank you for loving God. It encourages us to love Him more too.

Signed,

A Thankful Christian Sister

The greatest want of the world is the want of men-men who will not be bought or sold; men who in their inmost souls are true and honest; men who do not fear to call sin by its right name; men whose conscience is as true to duty as the needle to the pole; men who will stand for the right though the heavens fall. -Ellen White