faithful is He: Jeida’s story

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! -Ecclesiastes‬ ‭4‬:‭9-10‬ ESV

Friendship is one of God’s greatest gifts. In a dog-eat-dog world, it is a blessing to have people who genuinely love you. I believe, however, that friendship has many levels. My friendship with Jeida is on a special level though: Jeida is my Person.

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His Passion and Purity

This post is a guest post written by my partner for this series Jovontae. To read my post, visit his blog here.

Love and relationships is a topic that can appeal to any and everyone. There are many perspectives and ways of looking at this topic. Going even deeper, one’s worldview also influences the way one looks at love and relationships.

DISCLAIMER: I am a male. I am a virgin. I’ve never been in an official relationship. I am unabashedly christian. I believe that it is difficult, if not incomplete, to discuss and dissect love without God. So, this is the platform which I’ll be basing my stance.

There are a MYRIAD of books in christian culture that discuss this topic. Some are old, some are new. Some are old school, some are hip and trendy. Some from written from a male’s perspective, other from women. You get the idea right? From laypeople, ordained ministers to Doctors, there are hundreds of view to gather information on this topic from. There is but one book that I’ll be discussing: Passion and Purity. Mention this book in most christian circles and you’re guaranteed to elicit some response. It’s that famous.

Passion and Purity is a book written by speaker and former missionary Elisabeth Elliot. The book is half expository half auto-biography. In addition to giving insight and advice from a biblical perspective, she also recalls the process of courting and eventually marrying her college sweetheart Jim Elliot, to flesh out the things she’s explaining.

Some say the book is archaic, that it is too outdated for today’s progressive world. While I understand, I believe this book can be just as effective to a reader as when it first came out. She has a way of speaking to matters of the heart very accurately and bringing scripture to the picture. It’s a rare ability. Another complaint is that it’s just for women. I actually laugh at this postulation. While it is written by a woman, who’s describing her experience, and using stories of women who write to her, I still believe that men can, and should, read this. The example of her ex-husband Jim alone is worth reading about. I’ll be briefly explaining the first chapter.

The first chapter sets up the tone of the book. You learn about Elisabeth in college years. She describes her looks in a very quaint manner. My partner on this Blog series, Brittany, says this is key. Women are expected to care tremendously about their looks. You’ll see that, while she does mention her looks (“like most girls, I wished I were pretty, but it seemed futile to tamper much with what I had been given…) the emphasis is placed on her character and her dynamic relationship with God; which in of itself is counter-cultural. From there she describes the current state of society (“We have Sex and the Single Girl now. We have freedom. We can, in fact, ‘have it all and not get hooked.’ Women can be predators if they want to, as well as men.”). She touches on societal pressures on men: (“Men aren’t men unless they’ve proved it by seducing as many women as possible – or as many men, for we now may choose according to our ‘sexual preference’.”). To be honest my favorite quote from this chapter: “In forfeiting the sanctity by casual, nondiscriminatory ‘making out’ and ‘sleeping around,’ we forfeit something we cannot do well without. There is dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer protected and prized. By trying to grab fulfillment everywhere, we find it nowhere.” 

The last statement is a bold one. We live in a pretty hedonistic, do-as-thou-pleases society. We should never judge another on the things they decide to enjoy. Sex is good! Why not right? That’s the thing about pleasure: it is always fleeting. We’re always going to and fro to the next big thing, but it will always elude us. She says that “There is dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer protected and prized” I can’t tell you how many “oh, that’s interesting” looks I’ve gotten whenever I mention I’m a virgin. It’s cool (to an extent) for girls to be chaste, but men are validated by their sexual prowess. Since I have none, either I’m gay, scared, or medically impaired. Neither is true. I love God. I realize that some things in life have to be sacred in order to truly enjoy them. Unpopular? Yes. Necessary? I think so. Man has a natural fascination with Mystery. If we eliminate that and make plain what is sacred, all we have left is morbidity and boring, sanitized living. Pleasure and things like that exist to lift up higher to the One from which they come from. (see Anna Stesia by Prince)

Once we see this, we are well on our way to finding the fulfillment these lonely hearts yearn for.

New blog feature: Resource Library

Good afternoon friends,

I hope that you are all well. I wanted to write a short blurb about something that I’ve worked really hard on to be of service to you. When I’m looking up different topics and issues related to living as a Christian young adult, I come across many great resources. I find free e-books, sermons, videos, booklets, articles, blog posts, music and more. Some of the resources that I’ve come across online have been exactly what I needed to read at a particular time in life, and I feel that it’s only fitting to make these resources available to those who may come to my blog looking for insight on a particular topic.

So today, I formally welcome you to check out Where He Makes All Things Beautiful’s new resource library. Feel free to browse, explore and share. A friend of mine already started a book group from a great free resource she found there and it’s helping many of the women in a tremendous way. Also, if there is ever a particular topic you may be looking for Godly counsel or advice on, feel free to comment somewhere on the blog or use the Say Hello feature to ask me. More than likely, I know of something that can help.

God bless you and have an awesome day!

Brittany

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10 Great Posts on Christian Singleness, Love and Marriage

Hello friends,

I hope that you are all well. As you all know, I love to read and learn and I am interested in all things God. The Bible, its history, love, singleness, the institution of marriage, worship, character, spiritual gifts and so much more. I spend much of my free time exploring what Christian authors have to say about these topics. This post features 10 of my favorite blog posts and articles about singleness, love, courtship, dating and marriage. What I especially love about everything I’ve shared here is that they are God-centered, not emotion-based. Each writer has a Godly perspective on their work’s topic and to me, that is very important. Love is God, God is love and whenever we consider love and any of the institutions of it, God should always be at the center. Also, more than half of these articles were passed on to me by Jeida, so I couldn’t dare share them all without giving her a shout out lol. But anyway, I hope that you find everything here useful and thought-provoking. Ready…go! 🙂

Singleness

What If The One Never Comes by Sharona Drake at Paradime Women

I’m Saved, So Why Am I Single? by Jeida Storey at Destiny Collisions

Courtship/Dating/Marriage Preparation

We Can Be Friends by Mrs. Rich at The Good Life

True Love Does More Than Just Wait by Claire and Eli at Relevant Magazine

10 Ways to Be Marriable by Suzanne Hadley Gosselin at Boundless Webzine

Marriage

You Never Marry the Right Person by Timothy Keller at Relevant Magazine

The Story of Ian & Larissa by John Piper at Desiring God (be sure to watch the short video as well)

Five Things Every Successful Marriage Has To Have by Perry Noble at PerryNoble.com

Love

Settling by Scott Craft at Boundless Webzine

Man Enough To Love A Real Woman by Joshua Rogers at Boundless Webzine

I hope that these articles and blog posts get you thinking and are a blessing to you. If you want to talk about anything you read, feel free to comment below!

Also, below I’ve posted links to FREE books and booklets about the aforementioned topics. They are yours to download and learn from.

Resources

A Girl’s Guide to Marrying Well
A Guy’s Guide to Marrying Well
This Momentary Marriage
Preparing for Marriage: Help for Christian Couples
Sex and the Supremacy of Christ

Thanks for reading,

Brittany

I Want To Marry A Man…

The greatest want of the world is the want of men—men who will not be bought or sold, men who in their inmost souls are true and honest, men who do not fear to call sin by its right name, men whose conscience is as true to duty as the needle to the pole, men who will stand for the right though the heavens fall.

The above quote was written by Ellen G. White many years ago, but those words have never rang more true. The greatest want of the world is the want of God-fearing, strong men who live consecrated lives and walk with Him daily. However, men like this seem to be really few and far between, even though many are professed Christians.

As a single Christian young woman, I have come to realize that I have many standards for the man that I marry. These standards are not so much focused on his job, height or complexion, but more so focused on how he loves God. Any man can claim to be a Christian because he tweets Bible verses from his YouShare app, attends church service every week and listens to worship music, but that doesn’t mean that a man is walking with God daily.

What worries me about this, is that these men will one day grow to be husbands. They will be in charge of the spiritual growth and well-being of a wife and children and should be able to minister to that family. They should also understand that upon becoming a husband, they are taking on the responsibility of one day answering to God for how well they helped develop their family’s spiritual walk. God holds men accountable in a very special way.

One of my favorite pastors, Dr. John Piper of Desiring God discusses the role of husbands as laid out in Ephesians 5 in many of his writings & sermons. In his sermon “Lionhearted and Lamblike: The Christian Husband as Head,” he says this:

Headship is the divine calling of a husband to take primary responsibility for Christ-like, servant leadership, protection, and provision in the home.

After exploring this topic, I realized that I want to marry an extraordinary man of God who accepts headship for everything that it means. Marriage is beautiful, but if the husband is not ready to practice headship, the entire family can be in jeopardy. A spouse is a very influential person. If they are not fully devoted to Christ and fulfilling the roles he has created for them, the marriage will not glorify God in the way that is should.

Many men say that they love God, but their character, choices and demeanor say otherwise. Men who are not Christ-like are incapable of leading a wife and family closer to Him. And for a woman who loves God with her whole heart, marrying a man who does not love God the same way is a huge risk to take.

I want Christian women everywhere to think twice about the man that they want to marry. Don’t just pray for a Christian man, but pray for what you need specifically. This is what I realized about what kind of man of God I hope to marry.

  • I want to marry a courageous man. A man who will not be bought or sold. A man who loves God with a deep, burning love.
  • I want to marry a man who will not do wrong not just because he loves me, but because he cannot sin against God.
  • I want to marry a man who is in his inmost soul true and honest. A man who seeks God and whose primary goal is to be like Jesus.
  • I want to marry a man who can seek God for me, for our children and for direction. I want a man who can minister to me.
  • I want to marry a man who is so in love with the Lord, that God will literally have to tell him that it’s time to make me his wife.
  • I want to marry a man who trusts God with his life and my life. A man that is willing to do anything for God.
  • I want to marry a man who will have a deep, pure love for me because he has a deep well of love for God.
  • I want to marry a man who is less worried about the carnal and more concerned with the spiritual.
  • I want to marry a man who walks with God every single day of his life, like Enoch, and whose primary goal is to ensure me and our children are walking with the Lord every single day.

I hope that by sharing this, everyone will be encouraged to talk to God about exactly what they need in a Christian husband or wife.

My prayer for men

Lord, I pray that you heal a generation of men from brokenness, confusion, sin and every tool that the enemy uses to break and bind them. I pray that they will turn their eyes to you so that they can effectively lead their families. I pray that you give them insight into what it means to be a man of God. I pray that you give them the desire to seek so you so that they can be the head of their households and raise their children. Lord, heal and deliver and show them what it means to be husbands and fathers. In your name, Amen.

Sincerely,

Brittany